Never try to help someone unless they are ready to be helped. Until help is asked for, until there is that readiness to listen and let go of old patterns, your attempt to help will be felt as manipulation and control.
How to truly help? Meet them where they are right now.
Right or Wrong?
A perceived mistake becomes a valuable learning experience and is, in essence, a gift to learn and grow from. You are not a bad person and you are not your decisions; you are simply human.
It Is What It Is….Or Is It?
It is what it is.
What does that phrase mean to you?
To some, it means a shrug-of-the-shoulders acceptance of a situation you can’t change.
It can be a healthy take on life: Don’t stress over things you can’t change.
But stop to consider another point of view. Could that seemingly nonchalant shoulder shrug actually be a bad case of avoidance?
If you find yourself using the phrase “it is what it is” often, you run the risk of developing a mindset that leads to you accepting things that you could change.
In life we sometimes avoid taking a chance on making changes to our lives that may lead to some short-term pain but longer-term fulfilment. Change isn’t easy but neither is staying locked in a situation that makes you unhappy, telling yourself it is what it is.
Because maybe it isn’t.
Choice is the greatest power we have - and we know that. We are as intimidated by our power to determine our own choices in life as we are protective of this inner authority. We don't like other people making choices for us and yet we often avoid making decisions for ourselves because we fear the consequences. And we know that people spend years in therapy reconciling their resentment over suffering the redirection of their lives due to decisions made by others or the inability to make a decision for themselves when they should have.
Choice is our instrument of power, the means through which we navigate every movement of our life. Our power of choice has always been threaded into our intuition precisely because we are engines of co-creation. There is no such thing as a small or insignificant choice or one that does not have profound consequences.
Four Important Questions
These questions, when analyzed thoroughly, provide the introspection and self-discovery to face the hard truths that can jumpstart you from your lows and get you back to where you need to be.
Manage Your Menopause
A recent study by the Mayo Clinic indicates that mindfulness may help with the emotional symptoms of menopause - anxiety, irritability and depression.
I'm here to confirm that it does help with elevating symptoms of all kind...
BREATHING Naturally breathe in and out 10 times to settle yourself
GROUNDING With feet fully on the ground, visualise a symbol of strength, such as a tree, mountain or calm sea. Practise this three times a day or use it whenever the going gets rough.
What is Mindfulness
Basically, it's defined as the awareness that comes from paying attention to the present moment without judging, overreacting or being overwhelmed by it.
A letter to his daughter 💛
In the late 1980s, Einstein's daughter Lieserl donated 1,400 letters written by Einstein to the Hebrew University. The text of one of them is reproduced below for you. Having been sent by Einstein to his daughter, this letter shows a very different side to Einstein's personality and his outlook on the world.
How do your beliefs affect your life?
A belief is a thought about a person or a thing that you hold as true and it tends to be rooted very firmly and deeply within your mind. Beliefs are what drive us to act in a certain way.
Many of our beliefs are about ourselves and other people. If our beliefs are positive, it means that we’re more likely to be successful and have positive relationships. If they’re negative, they can limit us and lead to self-sabotage.
The thing about beliefs, though, is that they aren’t necessarily true. They are simply what we believe, and no two people’s beliefs are the same.
Beliefs are powerful. Many people think that if you believe things to be true you’ll attract events, experiences and people into your life to match the beliefs you hold. So best make sure those beliefs serve you well!
Does Your Cup Runneth Over?
There’s a lot of focus just now on making sure that we find time for ourselves, to prevent overwhelm and burnout. The old saying “You can’t pour from an empty cup” promotes self-care first.
But actually, caring for others can have tremendous positive benefits for us. By doing something for someone else we can reduce our stress and anxiety, increase our self-esteem and self-worth and increase our feelings of happiness and our sense of being connected to other people.
It’s not just about doing things for people that we love and care about. The same feelings of happiness and connectedness can arise when we do things for strangers or people we don’t know very well.
And research carried out at the University of California found that being kind to others could reduce blood pressure.
So maybe rather than draining our cup, caring for others can sometimes help it to flow over?
Getting better sleep shouldn't be a chore or an inconvenience. It should be something we want to do. If you aren't sleeping well, the first step is to look at your life and lifestyle to see if there are things that may be causing this. These may include your diet, exercise patterns, environment, habits, or the stress and worries of everyday living.
Getting a good night's rest is not about living longer. It's about living better.
According to Eckhart Tolle “Awareness is the greatest agent for change.”
You can be aware of many things at once: it’s raining outside, your son is shouting to you that he can’t find his school bag, and the dog has just run off with tonight’s dinner.
But self-awareness means being aware of your thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. And if you’re very self-aware it’s easier to understand other people and what their reactions mean.
Awareness starts like a small seed, which grows and blooms into something wonderful.
When we understand ourselves, we have the greatest capacity for change. We’re aware of how we affect other people and can change our behaviours. We’re aware of what we believe to be right and wrong and can take a stand. We’re aware of the kind of place we want to live in and can take action to change the world.
It all starts with that seed of awareness.'
Accept Every Part of Yourself
I start with the premise that we are all living, breathing miracles - and I think you should, too.
“Be kind to your body, gentle with your mind and patient with your heart. Stay true to your spirit, cherish your soul and never doubt yourself. You are still becoming, my love, and there is no one more deserving of the nurturing grace of your love.” – Becca Lee
“Am I enough?”
No matter who you are and what you do, there is only one answer to the question ‘am I enough’ and that is YES I AM! As everyone is always enough - no matter what.
Real love feels good and uplifting - not jealous or anxious, and does not compromise who you are as a person.
25 Uncomfortable things
Life is hard enough without having to live in a constant state of regret over lost opportunities, lost loves, and lost chances to speak your mind.
If you want to make the most of your life, doing these 25 uncomfortable things will ensure you don’t regret any part of your life.
1. Speak your mind when something is bothering you. You’ll only get one chance to make a lasting impact.
2. Gather the courage to stick to the things that are important to you. We are all so easily swayed by what others think.
3. Ask yourself if you are who you wanted to be when you grew up. If you aren’t there yet, keep working on it.
4. Let go of the things that don’t matter in your life. When you are 20-something, everything seems to be important.
5. Make sure you are living life outside of social media instead of just painting a picture of your imaginary life on social media.
6. Check the drama-queen act at the door. Let your overreacting self take a break once in awhile.
7. Talk about the world, politics, hobbies, food – anything except other people and your judgements of them.
8. Stop telling yourself you are fat. When you die, no one is going to care how “fat” you were. They’ll care about you as a person.
9. Be interested in other people and mean it. Learning about others is fascinating and a great way to learn about ourselves too.
10. Stop trying to be anything other than a kind and emphatic person. Being kind will bring you lots of joy and satisfaction in your life. No one cares about your opinion if you aren’t being nice to people.
11. Give yourself some room to breathe and mess up. Pay attention to things in the moment and allow yourself to enjoy them.
12. Read. A lot. Don’t limit yourself to what’s on the internet – they still print actual books you know
13. Be nice. The easiest way to do this is to always put other’s feelings before your own.
14. You aren’t going to trip and fall into your soul mate; you need to go out and find them.
15. Don’t spend money you don’t have; give money away whenever you can; set yourself up for financial success early on and you’ll be glad you did.
16. Trophies and medals don’t make you a better person, habits do. Work on being better everyday and you will become the person you see yourself being.
17. Draft a mission statement for yourself as a person. Use it to help you make decisions and guide your life.
18. Don’t cross people and burn bridges. You think walking out of that job today isn’t going to impact your life 5 years from now? Think again. Keep it classy and you’ll never have to worry about your life choices coming back to haunt you.
19. Ask people to be honest with you. Regardless of whether you agree or not, hearing people out is important.
20. Pay attention to when you feel uncomfortable about something: there’s opportunity to learn and grow there but many people gloss over it.
21. Don’t blame others for your shortcomings. Identify and accept responsibility for yourself at all turns.
22. Find your purpose and you will find pleasure.
23. Create a home for yourself no matter where you are in life. Whether it’s your parent’s basement or a high rise in the city, plant your roots and be happy with what you have.
24. Forget what you see online: real life is happening right in front of your eyes. Go out and live it.
25. Make sure you get the most of our your life by never holding back love, thoughts, ideas, and desires.
Denmark is known as the country with the best life balance in all of Europe; they are also coincidentally the population most likely to use reflexology to support their health. Studies have been conducted regarding on-site reflexology in varied workforce such as municipal councils and the Danish post office. These studies have shown that not only did they see:
...but they also saw:
What do you think of that, then?!
Create the life you love:
Every day, sit for a moment in silent meditation (just be) and concentrate on exactly what you would love to create in your life. See your life exactly the way you would love it to be.
I used to sit at Dogs Bay in Connemara designing how I would like my life to be ' my focus, at the time was on a Mini Cooper! and a white cottage, with roses round the door - the love of your life doesn't always arrive at the time you expect ' but that's another workshop!
You are not alone and unloved
The human ego is annoying - that's its very nature. It irritates you because it creates friction as it attempts to dissuade you from love. The ripple in the energy field is unpleasant. You'll always be troubled if you pay attention to other people's egos, because you'll only notice the darkness and shadows.