“Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”
– Joshua J Marine
Taking the next step with confidence
The Bars can be the starting point of a great adventure and they can be something you add to your life that will assist you in creating a greater ease with everything.
Never lose hope
Always have faith,
it allows you to cope.
Trying times will pass,
As they always do.
Just have patience,
Your dreams will come true.
So put on a smile,
You'll live through your pain,
know it will pass,
And strength you will gain.
Speak up for your beliefs
However unpopular you feel your beliefs may be, it's good to get into the habit of small-scale risk taking: it's essential to our growth and our ability to handle difficult situations. On the other side of risk is the quiet satisfaction that we have defeated our biggest enemy - our fear!
# The shape of feet revealing the shape of things to come
# their size and impact of the feet relate the amount of impression an individual makes during the journey through life and how these can be used favourably.
# Shoes show areas under pressure that can be related to the body, mind and soul, as well as worn out areas that need replenishing.
# Skin condition highlight the state of the soul from which ease and dis-ease emanate.
Best Foot Forward
CLICK ON Foot reading an article on the Sole work of mindingfeet
Feet play a vital role in transporting body, mind and Sole from one experience to the next so that progress can be made through the journey of life. Not only are they the roots, essential for personal growth, development and wellbeing, but they are also the messengers that carry the impressions of life's events which not only leave their mark on the soul, but also the soles. Observation of the ever-changing characteristics of feet provides vital clues as to the innermost needs and latent talents of individuals.
All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.
– Walt Disney
It can take years to clear the damage left behind by a person with a personality disorder - a predator, who sees you as a benefit to their life - at FIRST, they are charming, then, they are defiantly not charming.
After a lot of reflection and understanding about why you attracted an adult-sized child, you will reach a point where you are happy to be free from someone who can't be helped. They have adapted their persona around being a big child and the world is their playground.
Narcissistic individuals act like children because their emotional development was arrested around the ages of three to five years old. This was a result of severe or perceived emotional trauma and abuse at the hands of a narcissist parent or caregiver.
They are unable to get past this emotional immaturity and even though they know the difference between right and wrong, they still choose to react to any perceived emotional injuries in a childish manner.
They are prone to tantrums, throwing things, emotional outbursts of rage and aggression. To see this in a grown man or woman, is not only shocking but disturbing. They will then portray themselves as the victim and take no responsibility for anything that they have done. They then go into cycles of hoovering to win you back but you are then the proverbial hamster on a wheel as the cycles continue.
At first you cannot believe that this is the same person that you met in the guise of a grown-up. This person was charming, attentive and determined to woo you at any cost and fun. They made you laugh and life seemed like an adventure. If you look back with honesty, you saw the vulnerable person beneath the adult body but you didn't know that the child beneath was very close to the surface and that it would take very little to unleash it's destructive force. You cannot reason with a child nor can you reason with the narcissistic personality.
In my experience I knew that I tried to fix my abuser in the belief that he just had issues and seriously wanted to change. We went through periods of calm which in hindsight were because I was allowing his childish behaviour to continue while I was still the adult.
After you realise that the narcissist demands empathy from you but your emotional needs are ignored to such a degree, that you can't remain in a relationship with someone who is a child.
If you're a nurturing type, you can feel immense sadness for this tortured individual yet enormous anger at the abuse that they perpetrated knowingly and you have to put the blame squarely on their shoulders.
Be mindful of your thoughts in each moment, as each moment becomes part of your next hour, day, week and in the end your focused future.
Confidence and belief
Roger Bannister was the first man to run the mile in under four minutes.
Over the next two years the four minute mile was broken by thirty seven other athletes.
It is incredible what confidence and belief can do.
12 Steps to Self care
1) If it feels wrong, don't do it
2) Say 'exactly' what you mean
3) Don't be a people pleaser
4) Trust your instincts
5) Never speak bad about yourself
6) Never give up on your dreams
7) Don't be afraid to say No
8) Don't be afraid to say Yes
9) Be Kind to yourself
10) Let go of what you can't control
11) Stay away from drama and Negativity
They're not perfect. You aren't either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if they can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if they admit to being human and making mistakes, hold on to them and give them the most you can. They aren't going to quote poetry, they are not thinking about you every moment, but they will give you a part of them they knows you can break. Don't hurt them, don't change them, and don't expect for more than they can give. Don't analyse. Smile when they make you happy, yell when they make you mad, and miss them when they are not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect people don't exist, but there's always one person who is perfect for you.
When you replace disempowering models of reality with empowerimg ones, tremendous changes can occur in your life at a very rapid pace.
What do your feet say?
Practitioners say a session of foot reading can reveal lots about your character, behaviour and emotions.
Far from being a new fad, it’s been around for centuries and has been popular in parts of Asia for over 5000 years.
Devotees say the feet are a mirror to the rest of the body and studying the colour, texture, shape and proportion of that part of the body can give away clues to a person’s moods and actions.
A Favourite of Mine
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
– Dale Carnegie